Saturday, February 13, 2010

life lessons


I learnt 2 very important lessons yesterday,

1. When u have a baby at home, the temptation to be his favourite by spoiling him once in a while overrides disciplining him! dont hate babies n their parents so easily.

2. You can grow old right in front of your eyes. Never take ur health for granted.

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Happy republic Day

Am a patriot.. Am SO FREAKIN PROUD to be an Indian woman.. Am proud my grandfather was a freedom fighter and he fought so hard to free this nation.. he had his own press to publicise wat he believed in.. he was put in jail at one point in time and lost his 5 yr old daughter in the process.. he has withstood the lathi charges of firangs and even some Indians who worked for the britishes (i dont blame them though.. food for one's family becomes more important than freedom sometimes)!! he fought more so to free India from the ill-treatment, than the britishes themselves.. If thats the case, I would say we still havent managed to achieve complete freedom cos we are still fighting ill-treatment from our own people..

Many responsibilities are conveniently forgotten for that extra bit of personal gratification either in terms of money, power or ego! Some politicians, like diapers, have to b changed often and worse.. mostly for the same reason!

Wat went wrong in the attitude of our people durin the last 63 years of freedom?
Wat makes them take our freedom for granted when so many of our own blood have shed theirs for our well being?
Wat rights do a few individuals have, to decide whether to share a natural resource with a neighbouring state!?
Wat rights do individuals have to divide the nation in the name of birth right n community?
Wat r the rights, as Indian citizens, have we decided to exercise than complain wat we dont have?
How many of us even respect the national anthem enough to stand up n salute while its being played?
Wat makes some so not proud of the nation that has given them a life and an identity!

It is but human tendency to pursue peace and unite when there is a problem bigger than life! But let us not wait for something bigger than 26/11 happen to unite us whole heartedly!

Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.. so let us learn and overcome the mistakes we've been making individually, as a group, as a community n finally as a nation!

No nation is perfect.. It needs to b MADE perfect.. As Indians, let us face that responsibility.. let our children be proud of us for the future we create for them in this nation..

To My love, My life, My history, My present, My future, My all, My nation.. My India

- JAI HIND!

Saturday, January 09, 2010

Can i ask for more?

Am just back from a live concert by Padmashree Begum Parveen Sultana..

Have you ever felt the surge of adnernaline when a far fetched dream becomes reality, enfolding so beautifully right in front of ur eyes? Ever dreamt of getting a flesh and blood darshan of your deity?


My deity was Begum Parveen Sultana and I did get the darshan!!!!

To describe her in a nutshell, when she sings she transcends herself from noun to verb.. Parveen ji is Music herself.. the only vocalist to reach 4 octaves, her bewitching voice modulations and thaans at an unimaginable speed, she has been unbeatable in her empire for the past 50 and odd years..

Ever since my dad introduced me to one of her recordings when i was a teenager, she and her singing has been a distant dream to me.. her renditions so divine and surreal, there have been times ive just day dreamt about how her audience wldve probably reacted during a particular recording..

At her age of 70+, it was the most amazing performances ive ever heard.. her music made me feel so light and pure.. i was just floating.. with her powerful but smooth as butter voice n her PERFECT SA engulfing the entire auditorium, she never gave me one opportunity to touch base.. I learnt today that it is possible indeed to be drugged by music..

With a constant smile on her beautiful face, everything about her on stage was gracious and divine.. she was grounded enough to call her audience as her God and she was just a Pujari, offering her prashad to them.. heights of humility!!!!!

The minute she started with raag Purya Dhanasri with small quips earlier, it is but impossible to sit through the aalaap without a tear rolling down one's cheeks while hearing her efforlessly glide through the notes from athi mantra sthayi(lowest octave), madhya sthayi(middle octave) n finally reaching to a cresendo of tara sthayi (highest octave).. her voice modulations can give instant moksha.. the experience was more spiritual than musical..

As she ended the concert with raag bhirav, the audience gave her a 5 minutes standing ovation and applause.. not enough compared to what she gave us during the 2 hrs concert..

I am blessed to have witnessed her live concert

I am blessed to have been seated right in front of her n hear her sing while she was directly looking at me

I am blessed to have been even considered to play the tambura for her during the show

I am blessed to have been hugged by her

I was blessed by none other than my Goddess of music herself..

Can i ask for more?

Sunday, November 08, 2009

To have succeeded

To laugh often & love much;
To win the respect of intelligent people
And the affection of children;
To earn the approbation of honest critics
And endure the betrayal of false friends;
To appreciate beauty;
To find the best in others;
To give one's self;
To leave the world a little better,
Whether by a healthy child,
A garden patch,
Or a redeemed social condition;
To have played and laughed with enthusiasm
And sung with exultation;
To know even one life has breathed easier
Because one has lived...
This is to have succeeded!

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Manadhil Urudhi Vaendum

மனதில் உறுதி வேண்டும்
வாக்கினிலே இனிமை வேண்டும்
நினைவு நல்லது வேண்டும்
நெருங்கினப் பொருள் கை பட வேண்டும்

கணவு மெய் பட வேண்டும்
கை வசமாவது விரைவில் வேண்டும்
தனமும் இன்பமும் வேண்டும்
தரணியிலே பெருமை வேண்டும்

கண் திறந்திடல் வேண்டும்
காரியத்தில் உறுதி வேண்டும்
பெண் விடுதலை வேண்டும்
பெரியக் கடவுள் காக்க வேண்டும்

மண் பயனுற வேண்டும்
வானகம் இங்கு தென் பட வேண்டும்
உண்மை நின்றிட வேண்டும்
ஓம்! ஓம்! ஓம்!

Friday, September 11, 2009

Tomorrow never comes

I came across this ancient jaina story that made an extra grey cell move in my head...

A prince had gone to listen to Mahavira with his wife.. when they came home, as was the tradition in ancient India n particularly in the luxurious homes, the husband was bathing n the wife was pouring rose water over him... they started talking about wat they had heard the Mahavira say...

The wife said, "My brother has been thinking of becoming a sannyasin of mahavira!"

Her husband asked, "How long has he been giving this a thought?"

She replied saying, "How long? I think it must be atleast 5 yrs now."

Then the husband laughed n said, "He will be thinking his whole life.. This is not the way to become a sannyasin!" The wife felt hurt as something was said against her brother..

She said, "Do u think u can do better?!"

He was sitting naked n taking a shower... He did not answer, he got up, opened the door n walked out... The wife said, "Where r u going naked???"

He said, "Mahavira's sannyasins live naked.. Iam going to my master to b initiated.."

She said, "R u kidding?"

The man said, "Forget all that! IF I WANT TO DO SOMETHING, I DO IT.. I dont go on thinking for 5 yrs!"

She said, "Forgive me that i asked you wat u wld do in his place!"

He said, "Now it is too late!" n he went on to become a sannyasin n never looked back..

I guess those who really decide to live drop all fears, all thinking, all security n all safety! they end up risking everything because life is so precious n so fleeting... so momentary that one just cannot go on postponing... Thinking is a way of postponing... feeling is a way of postponing... even desiring is a way of postponing sometimes... life enfolds much better when there is a streak of spontenity to it... This does not mean am propaganding skinny dipping on a shallow bed of rocks jus because someone challenges u to...

But i have learnt to believe that nothing is ever right or wrong except for that single light in each of us called the 'instinct'... once the instinct strikes then there is no looking back... the risk in opening ones' wings seems much lesser compared to the risk of never opening it...

Friday, August 21, 2009

If heaven hasnt got an internet connection, i aint going!!!!!

Monday, July 27, 2009

Careless n Aimless n lazy n... :)

Writing could be such a pleasure :) and a blog space is such a joy... getting reallllllly fond of blogging lately i must confess... though there are enough things happening in my life right now to keep me busy forever, there is a relief to just sit and blog aimlessely for a while and get back on track...

I do wanna write somethin interesting right now but feelin too nice and comfy to brain storm... Here i am, leaning on 4 to 5 nice cushiony soft pillows on ma bed... the tubelight in ma room has conked off, so its just a small dim bulb thats lighting the room... ive opened the window and my balcony door strategically right for a splendid cross ventilation... niceeeee breeze n its blisssssssss in this chennai heat :)... there is 'yen anbe' n 'indian rain' playing on a loop in my ipod... there is a box of leftover chocolate truffle cake lying beside me... finally, my long time writting deadline is close to getting over! yipee yey yey!!!! (time for victory dance :D)... i can also hear the busy, monday evening, chennai traffic buzzing with fervour and a few hyper active, post school pressure kutties, shrieking away to glory downstairs... cant seem to stop smiling though :)

Happiness is a state of mind and is all the more wonderful when its not instigated by a specific reason i guess... It stays longer n goes deeper... I can even feel myself glowing (Self involved! thats me! :P) hmmm... :)

N Aalinth just came into the room n gave me one of his toothless, priceless smiles :) he even laughed today when i screeched 'Poda Bokkae' in my highest decibel possible!!!! Am just feeling a bit disturbed abt loosing that bokke smile in a while when he starts growing teeth.. but cant help it i guess.. part of life... its not gonna look nice when he grows big n still gives a full gummy smile to women... :P

N Last night there were heavy rains here but no power... it is splendid when u know u cant do much even if u wanted to! thats the best part abt a power cut in the evenings... :) it was super nice to jus strum my guitar n sing along something aimlessly... the chords kept changing n perfection gone with the wind... niceeeeeeee :)

Wish it rains today as well...

Hmmm... If it does, may u have a careless aimless evening urself :) tata bubye..

Saturday, June 27, 2009

Dearest Michael


Finally! FINALLY... Finally u decided to find ur own peace that mere mortals like us couldnt let u live with... A life that blossomed to its fullest through ur death!

We.. or even I didnt bother about ur life or otherwise a few weeks back... But here I am right now, mourning over ur death for the past one week... words just doesnt seem to put through the heaviness i feel inside n am quite astonished myself to accept it here on a public forum... How much u have affected a complete, not-so-die-hard-a-fan stranger!?? My every morning n every night is filled with nostalgia... the times i subconsciously decided u were just immortal... But U did look the part didnt u!?

So much to talk about, so much to read about, so much to learn about, so much.... just so much is rushing to my mind all at the same time... have a feeling as long as i dont express it in words, that atleast, would truely remain immortal... Will finish this post with one quote that applies to u...

"When you were born, u cried while the world rejoiced.
Live ur life in such a way that when u die, the world cries while u rejoice"

U were one person i know who lived such a life... inspite of all those screw ups n hiccups n all sorts of non sense, u still remain in our hearts for ur incomparable genius...

But, u can never ever die...

Proud to have lived during ur era Michael...

Love u!!!!!!

Saturday, June 20, 2009

Bathroom Time Killers

The inventor of western closet was a GENIUS!!!!!! wat comfort... wat bliss... Privacy at its best! One place where no one can enter or anyone could disturb... the outside world is completely shut... past and future completely forgotten... wat remains is the blissful present!!! Awwww.. n wat bliss!!!

But i do come across those times when the morning paper was already read during the morning session... there is no other interesting book to keep me occupied... mobile is on charge so cant take it inside! PANIC...

So once when all the serene tranquility was surrounding me in the bathroom, i heard myself think... When such are the impediments to take away all the fun from life, how do we rise above them!? The answer was, bathrooms were not only meant for long reads, never ending conversations n goosebumpin enlightenment but can also be a stadium for many You vs You tournaments!!!! :D read on if u wanna know more...

Disclaimer: Urgency will definitely not work well... Edhuvaa irundhaalum ppppplan pannnni pannanum!!!!

Trash Can Frisbee

Wat u need: A wastepaper basket n some paper plates... if the waste paper basket aint big enough to hold the paper plates, use a cardboard box or a paper shoppin bag... place the basket on the bathroom floor as far from the toilet as u can...

How to play: Fling the paper plates like frisbees... see if u can throw them into a wastepaper basket... for a bigger challenge, try to boomerang them off a wall into the basket!

Bathroom Darts

Wat u need: A tin, a saucer, a small glass n small objects to throw ( coins or cups from discarded toothpaste tubes work well! )

How to play: Put the glass in the centre of the saucer, n put the saucer in the centre of the tin... set them all down on the bathroom floor a few feet from the toilet... thats ur "dart board"! :P
Toss the coins ("Darts") at ur target... if they land in the glass, u get 10 points... if they land in the saucer, u get 5... if they land in the tin, u get 1... if u score too well, move the target farther away to make it more challenging... U also get to perk up ur memory n math in the process by calculatin ur scores :D

Bathroom Blow Gun

Wat u need: A soda straw, some wooden matches n a hat or somethin hollow!

How to play: Turn the hat or upside down n place it on the bathroom floor a good distance away from the toilet... put a match in the straw, hold the straw up to ur mouth, n blow... try to shoot all the matches into the hat!

Fun With a Funnel

Wat u need: A rubber ball n a funnel... the funnel needs to big enough to hold the ball...

How to play: Hold the pointy end of the funnel... bounce the ball off the wall opposite the closet n try to catch it in the funnel on the rebound...

Bathroom Bouncy Ball

Wat u need: An egg carton or an empty ice tray n some ping pong balls...

How to play: Write different point values in each of the 12 cups of the egg carton or the ice tray... then place it on the bathroom floor a few feet from the toilet...
Try to bounce the ping pong balls into the carton or tray... start with one bounce, then, as ur skills improve, move the carton farther away n bounce the balls twice before they go into the cups... add up the values of ur score...

Bathroom Broken Neck Preventer

Wat u need: All the stuff u just spread out all over the bathroom floor to play all these games i just taught u...

How to play: pick up all the stuff off the bathroom floor, before somebody gets killed!!!!

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

24 reasons how turning 24 was fun!

This may b the result of reading too many cosmos n vogues... U get to learn a hell a lot of awesome useless stuff and also learn to number things to make em more alluring n important... ditto that strategy to this post... :) so here we go,

1. I turned 24 on a 24th.. :D

2. Cutting 4 chocolate truffle cakessssssssssssssss and hogging on them in a span of 1 day was definite fun!!!! :D

3. Unlike any other bday, or even any bday surprise, my friends tried surprising me twice... one on the eve of my bday (as a back-up plan apparently) n one on my bday... :) *thanks to my luvs divs, achu, vish, krish, arch n pre!!!*

4. Orkut helped a whole lot of people remember my bday on time... my phone was busy till 1.35 in the night.. call hoppin so long did annoy my parents but was awesome fun indeed :P *thanks to all my nocturnal luvs and the ones who stayed awake or set an alarm to wish me then crashed to sleep*

5. Cutting my bday eve cake in the beach... near the waves... under the soft moon light... with my best budds... was just awesome!!! :) i have to admit, but the cake was soooooooo splendid... it was sooo soft, soooooooooooooooooo soft, with yum chocolate fresh cream all over... ashwin got it from this place called padmashri foods (name may sound sidey) near the NDTV office, chennai.

6. Amma n pre smuggled in a french loaf choc truffle :D... the rest is guessable aint it? for the ones who cant guess afterall, i cut it at 12 n promptly binged again :D

7. One call that surprised me was a call from spore at 12 in the night... it wldve been 2.30 there... thanks charan for stayin awake so long...

8. Myself n pre decided my 24th yr shld b 'absolut'e in all ways.. so we thought the liquid way of driving in that point shld b a good start :P

9. Girish called up in the morning and spoke to me for quite sometime... Poor thing had slept only at 2 the previous night coz of some crap he didnt deserve... But it didnt strike him once that it was my bday that day... was supeerrrrrrrrrr fun to remind him :P

10. Myths turned up home in the morn to wish me... was worried whether i may miss seeing her but there she was :)

11. Myself n amma had this convo...
"Amma: Janani, Archith asked me to prepare something for 10 people who were coming home in the morning... are they still coming?
Me: Who 10 people?? *evil grin on my face*
Amma: Oh.. didnt u know about it?? *realizes whether she let out something, grins wide* :P

12. Meghs turning up in the morn was a sure fire surprise... i wasnt expecting that... realllllly sweet of u meghs... to have found my address from arch and come all the way with ur cute wall hanging and a hand written letter as my gift:)

13. N i did love ur msg later... :D i can never ever forget it!!!!!!

14. Btw, i was supposed to be going judging to an eng collegethat afternoon! :P

15. Thats preisely how Arch, pre n minnu smuggled me to ponneri... n it wasnt simple either... i asked them so many questions on our way that they may thought of leaving me in the middle of nowhere n running to peace :P

16. They finally smuggled me to this place called 'The Wild Ranch' in ponneri... a place dedicated for adventure sports... bungee jumping, dare devil, paint ball, some avalanche drive n sundry...

17. I found divs, vish, krish, gurpreet, rony n ashwin in the entrance waiting... :D

18. I walked in to find a life size FLEXXXXXXXX in the entrance saying 'Happy birthday to the queen of Apes'!!!!!!!!!!!! :P Ashwin had designed the whole thing n it was lookin sooooooo splendid... i just wish it had more photos of our gang than me... but felt ever so important :D Thanks achaggi!

19. Was all the more fun to find vijay, vids, suresh n san waiting inside... :)

20. After enough waiting and changing, we went for 'dare devil'... I learnt that size DID matter for agility... we were all timed and archith bribed the timer guy n announced he finished in 2 minutes n 59 secs.. :P LOL... where as it took most of us a minimum of 4 minutes.. :P

21. We went for paint ball next... it was fun to b thinkin, 'to run, or not to run!?'.. then 'to shoot, or not to shoot!?'... :P But i did run, i did shoot n got shot :D... bday-girl-gettin-shot pamperin was good indeed :P

22. Phone had promptly conked up when i reached the waiting area to check for calls... so i ended up gettin a new phone as well for ma bday :D

23. Finally, ashwin had arranged for a cake cutting ceremony on the terrace area... it was sooooooooooooooooo beautiful... it was twilight n sooooo beautifully lit with lights... chairs were neatly set and i was made to cut the cake :) thanks soooooooooo much achu... n there was a guy playing us songs with his guitar... was really really really nice...

24. Finally, vhea wanted to b the last caller as she wasnt the first n wished me :)... i later ended up torturing prashanth by calling him thrice to find out who the number belonged to (as i didnt have the contacts in my new phone n had repeated missed calls in my msg list!)... n that was one day he really really wanted to sleep early... :P he literally begged me to stop calling him... :P :P sorry prashanth boy!!!!

So, ending this post on a typical formal note, thanks so much to all u guys again... life is beautiful coz u guys r around... :)

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

I salute!




He was born with multiple defects - club footed, both hands with webbed fingers, crippling pterygium, cleft lip n palate... by the age of 4 he had already undergone 15 surgeries!! he was confined to a wheel chair n all efforts to grow the bones in his legs went in vain...

At the age of 5 he was so frustrated that he told the doctor to cut off his legs so that he could go out n play with the other kids... the doctors did find that to be the solution n amputated his legs n replaced them with artificial limbs... as suggested by the doctors, he was taken to a therapeutic pool to swim n that marked the beginning of a new life for him... he just wouldnt come out of the pool n grew in swimming with prosthetic legs! n everytime he came out of the pool, he made it a point to set a record!
He actually wanted to run even before he could walk.. when he was 8, he said he would swim in the paralympics games... he not only lived up to it, but also surpassed it by winning the gold medal n setting a record for his category...
When he was 15, he had set 5 american swimming records, 4 national running records, completed 6 triathlons n carried an olympic torch! last yr, when he was 20, he won the gold medal at the paralympics at beijing, setting a new world record..

Rudy Garcia Tolson today swims, runs n participates in triathlons as a competitor at the highest level n sometimes he has even outperformed some of the able-bodied athletes. Rudy is also a motivational speaker n inspires many by his story! he also generates funds to support other challenged athletes n help them build a career with dignity...

With such grit, determination, zest n nerves of steel, he has achieved not only for himself but for everyone around him... I salute!

Monday, March 30, 2009

Who will cry when i die?

"When you were born, u cried while the world rejoiced. Live ur life in such a way that when u die, the world cries while u rejoice"

Last night was one of those nights i slept deeeeeeep... I remember coming across that person in bessi beach... i remember feeling lost n being angry initially n later giving a bear hug n patching up things between us... I remember that was the point in ma dream, when i drifted off to sleep... Whenever am a bit disturbed, my subconscious always tricks my logic mind into making things look rosy n making me sleep... later during the night ill have loads of reflective dreams that i wld end up pondering about the next day morning...

But last night, i absolutely didnt remember anything after that initial trick... I dont even remember sleeping... it was as if i dreamt but decided not to sleep anymore n woke up immediately... I opened just one eye slowly to search for my mobile to check the time... it was around 1 noon... quite late for my standards but not too bad! N I heard lots of voices...

I knew it was quite late for all that noise to be heard outside... Arch n pre shldve already left for office n appa for his shoot... it shld b only amma n alinth n kala... but looked like a whole lot of people had decided to visit our place that particular morning... n i didnt remember amma mentioning any get together in the morning n even if it was so, she shldve definitely woken me up... I did get worried when I heard the urgency in the voices as i got nearer to the door...

I stood in the doorway for a while n was shocked to see quite a number of people... looked like my house was filled with a whole lot of worried people around... n i did expect some kind of an acknowledgement from paachaa uncle who was near my room.. a 'good morning' or an urgent update about all that was happening... but he bloody didnt even madhichufy me... a bit hurt n angry i walked down the hall quite groggy, combing my unruly hair with my fingers as much as possible to look a bit dignified n not a joker... I entered the hall n AGAIN no one bothered...

i definitely had to find amma n hear wats happening so urgent that no one even bothered to look at me...

I finally found her in the master bedroom n GOSH! she was crying... crying quite hard... i really got worried then... i ran near her n tried hugging her but to my surprise i cldnt feel anything n looked like neither did she... *thats more worrying indeed*... i tried again n bloody there was no action or reaction from both our sides there... murphy's law did make sense! if somethings bad, it cld n wld definitely get worse!!!!!

I walked out of the room, bugged than ever n noticed something finally that shook me... someone who was an exact replica of me was lying there near the balcony... covered with a white cloth!!!! My frantic brain did some quick math n boiled down the situation to 2 options... someone either decided to clone me n also killed her in the process which these poor ppl thought was me... which was unlikely... cloning is illegal n am not THAT famous yet!!!...

Or i was dead.


a loud *beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep* in my ears!




SHUCKSSSSSSSS!!!! wat the hell did happen last night!? i havent even gone for that katemeron ride ive been dyin to go for n bloody looks like i already am DEAD!!!! i also wanted to tell amma sorry for screamin at her yesterday... i wanted aalinth to smile at me atleast once dammit... i wanted to do soooooo many things! looks like even an extra day wont b enough n ive always thought ill b kinda prepared before i died... like a notice period... looks like finally somethin did manage to surprise me instead of me forever guessing all my surprises...

The whole ceremony part flew away in a rush n it was funny to watch all that happening to me... after the cremation all of us came home, though my ppl dint realize ive been there all along... the atmosphere after reaching home wasnt too gr8 either... I did feel a bit guilty n damn sad that ppl who were so close to me were sad... i wasnt sure whether i wanted them to cry... but laugh?? or just b normal afterall?! i was a bit confused...

Suddenly I heard a familiar voice saying something loud... i turned around to find one of my favorite uncles calling my family, close friends, ppl who gave me work n ppl who worked under me who were assembled there to say a few words about who i was as a person n how ive affected their lives... something reflective!

I was waiting eagerly to listen to all of em... since it was gonna be the final speech, i did expect quite a lot of things to b said... but wait!!!!! was i even deserving to come up to my own expectations when i walked on planet earth? everything that i want these ppl to say... have i ever lived upto to my own expectations right now to make them say all that in their final personal testimony to me!?... this was gonna b the result of the so called examination ive written in my life from day 1...

i was waiting...

blank!!!!

It was dark... i was lying on my bed... i was wide awake n it took me a minute to realize that it was all just a dream...

I actually felt quite cheated... how would it b if there is a power shut down right before u reach the climax scene of an awesome grippin movie!?

While i was re running this dream in my head, i did realize something... it was kinda eerily similar to that Christmas story where this miser guy will b visited by the spirits of present, past n the future in his dream n how that changes his life forever!

Mine was kinda similar (though am no miser n Christmas is a long way to go!)
I know i would have to die someday n there is no escape wat so ever... i know i would definitely reach that point in my life... or do we say 'after' life!?... when ill get to know wat kind of a person ive been... though am not sure whether id b comprehending the situation like how i did in my dream, i know i would definitely be around somewhere that time...

I just wanna start working towards wat i would want all of them to talk that day... my family i had made my life with... my friends i had shared my life with... wat i was like to the person i worked for... wat i was to that person who worked for me... wat all i would expect them to say n share... was i kind? was i fair? was i fun to b around? was i efficient? was i dependable? have i ever been there when they really wanted me to b? even if i was, did i make a difference? how did i touch their lives?! or did i???

All those questions were like kinda building a future that i dont have a hold on right now, but workable indeed with my present...

Frankly, it doesnt even thrill me when i think who'll 'cry' when i die! i just wanna ensure 'wat' made those ppl cry... did i manage to leave a legacy behind for all that oxygen i inhaled, for all that space i occupied n more importantly... for all that time i spent here with ppl n profession...
just my presence that could b felt even after my death...

I dont want ppl cryin when i die, a knowing smile when my thought crosses would speak volumes!

Monday, March 23, 2009

Kaiyai chudum yendraalum
theeyai thodum pillai pol
unaiiye meendum ninaikkiren

Thursday, February 26, 2009

கண்ணன் - என் காதலன்

கானகத்தே சுற்று நாளிலும் நெஞ்சிற்
கலக்கம் இல்லாது செய்வான் - பெரும்
சேனை தலைநின்று போர்செய்யும் போதினில்
தேர் நடத்திக் கொடுப்பான் - எந்தன்
ஊனை வருந்திடு நோய் வரும் போதினில்
உற்ற மருந்து சொல்வான் - நெஞ்சம்
ஈனக் கவலைகளை எய்திடும் போதினில்
இதன்சொல்லி மாற்றிடுவான்
பிழைக்கும் வழி சொல்ல வேண்டும் என்றால்
ஒரு பேச்சினிலே சொல்லிடுவான் :)
உழைக்கும் வழிவினை யாளும் வழிப்பயன்
உண்ணும் வழி உரைப்பான்
அழைக்கும் பொழுதினிற் போக்கு சொல்லாமல்
அறை நொடிக்குல் வருவான் :)
மழைக்கு குடை. பசி நேரத்து உணவேன்ற்ரன்
வாழ்வினுக் கேன்கள் கண்ணன்
கேட்ட பொழுதினில் பொருள் கொடுப்பான்; சொல்லும்
கேலி போருத்திடுவான் - எனை
ஆட்டங்கள் காட்டியும் பாட்டுக்கள் பாடியும்
ஆறுதல் செய்திடுவான் - என்றன்
நாட்டத்திரக் கொண்ட குறிப்பினை இதோ என்று
நான் சொல்லும் முன் உணர்வான் - அன்பர்
கூட்டத்திலே இந்தக் கண்ணனை போல் அன்பு
கொண்டவர் வேறுளரோ?
உள்ளத்திலே கருவம் கொண்ட போதினில்
ஓங்கி அடித்திடுவான் - நெஞ்சில்,
கள்ளத்தை கொண்டு ஒரு வார்த்தை சொன்னால் அங்கு
காரி உமிழிந்திடுவான் - சிறு
பள்ளத்திலே நெடு நாள் அழுகுங் கெட்ட
பாசியை ஏற்றி விடும் - பெரும்
வெள்ளத்தைப் போல் அருள் வார்த்தைகள் சொல்லி
மெலிவு தவிர்த்திடுவான்
சின்னக் குழந்தைகள் போல் விளையாடிச்
சிரித்துக் களிதிடுவான் - நல்ல
வண்ண மகளீர் வசப்படவே பல
மாயங்கள் சூழ்ந்திடுவான் - அவன்
சொன்ன படி நடவாவிடிலோ மிகத்
தொல்லை இழைதிடுவான் - கண்ணன்
தன்னை இழந்து விடல், ஐயகோ! பின்
ஜகத்தினில் வாழ்வதிலேன்?
கோபத்திலே ஒரு சொல்லிற் சிரித்துக்
குலுங்கிடச் செய்திடுவான் - மனச்தாபத்திலே
ஒன்று செய்து மகிழ்ச்சி
தழைத்திடச் செய்திடுவான் - பெரும்
ஆபத்தினில் வந்து பக்கத்திலே நின்று
அதனை விலக்கிடுவான் - சுடர்
தீபத்திலே விழும் பூச்சிகள் போல் வரும்
தீமைகள் கொன்றிடுவான்
உண்மை தவறி நடப்பவர் தம்மை
உதைத்து நசுக்கிடுவான் - அருள்
வன்மையினால் மாத்திரம் அவன் பொய்கள்
மலை மலையாய் உரைப்பான்; நல்ல
பெண்மை குணமுடையவன் ; - சிலே நேரத்தில்
பித்தர் குணமுடயவன் ; - மிகத்
தன்மை குணமுடயவன் ; - சில நேரம்
தழலின் குணமுடயவன்.
கொள்ளுங் கொலைக்கு அஞ்சிடாத மறவர்
குணமிகத் தானுடை யான் ; - கண்ணன்
சொல்லும் மொழிகள் குழந்தைகள் போல்
ஒரு சூதரியாது சொல்வான் - என்றும்
நல்லவருக்கு ஒரு தீங்கு நண்ணாது
நயமுறக் காத்திடுவான்

Sunday, January 11, 2009



It is universal gyan to have a purpose in life... our parents, teachers, elders, uncles, aunts n their 'onnu vitte' in laws always have somethin to tell us... 'one should have a purpose in life', 'we r born for a purpose', 'a life without purpose is not worth to be lived' , n all shit...

we need to have a 'reason' for everything... a reason to read, a reason to write, a reason to talk, a reason to go somewhere, a reason to shout, a reason to gift (we shld never gift someone more than wat they dared gift us), a reason to love n alas! even a reason to live... all sorts of reasons.. there should always be an underlying reason lurking around somewhere to cling on to...

man goes mad with reasoning... he wants logic. he wants reasons. he wants purpose. n thats precisely the reason so many go mad!

the most powerful things on earth r the ones that doesnt have a physical form... gravity, magnitude, inertia, momentum n even love... man has just identified them n havent yet been able to explain it completely...

so they aint exactly logical… they go beyond it! they cannot b reasoned with... n in the macro sense of it one really cannot explain y they even came into existence… u just have to ACCEPT it!!!!

so when i asked myself once, wat was MY purpose in life, i was quite convinced when i heard the answer.. 'to LIVE'... to just accept myself completely without any inhibition… inspight of all the mistakes that I make n everything gr8 that I do, its comforting to accept all of them n neither feel guilty nor take things to my head!

Just do things that u wanna do... neither for the money, nor for the fame but for the most important person in ur life… for URSELF! (a note for the psychos: if u ask me whether u can start killing ppl since that’s REALLY wat u wanna do, my suggestion to u: start practicing on urself… makes things simpler!!!!)

I don’t even believe in ppl who say ‘u ALWAYS have to b happy’…

Hello! happiness is completely a state of mind n so is sadness… u r happy when things go right … so, as long as u don’t get depressed in the long run, its only natural to feel sad when things don’t go right!?

I find it easier to accept myself… I love it when I have a laugh n have a gr8 time… but frankly, am completely ok to b ‘sogam’ ridden n cry my eyes out n not bottle neck when am sad… my logic is, I can realize the value of my happiness only when ive seen a bit of bad times…

Its awesome living life this way :)… no rules & regulations but just guidelines… no expectations to fulfill but my own… finally, no regrets n no mistakes...

A life to live... n ONLY live!!!

Friday, January 02, 2009

Well.. may all ur troubles last as long as ur new year resolutions!

n may i marry jhonny depp as per my plan!!

HAPPY NEW YR TO ALL!!! :D

Saturday, November 29, 2008

A right to live - 1


Bombay's Nightmare... India's Shame!

From all the news, its obvious that the terrorists achieved wat they wanted to do... wat they love doing... terrorize humanity... terrorize the whole 'country'... though their plan actually failed in blowing up The Taj Mahal Hotel! thank God!!

People who went out to have a good time no more have the courage to venture outside ... people near the nariman house think twice about staying home... You can plot an escape plan in a war... but how could u plan an escape from an accident? how could u plan to not b "A lost innocent life"?

The society that was pain stakingly built for the past 1000s of yrs is being shattered right in front of our eyes... a wrongly built society around the world... note: nothing wrong with the culture, but lots with the society... ofcourse, Iam society to the rest of the soceity right?! but how could u try curing fever when there is a deeper problem prevalent in the body?!

The problem is much deeper than any of us may want to expect...
our society is falling apart!
Its old order, discipline, morality, religion, everything has been found to b wrongly based… it has just lost its power over people’s conscience… terrorism simply symbolizes that to destroy human beings doesn’t really matter… that there is nothing in human beings that is indestructible… that its all just matter!

The nations r irrelevant now bcoz of all the nuclear weapons… if the whole world can b destroyed within minutes, the alternative can only b that the whole world shld b together… now it cannot remain divided; its division is dangerous coz division can become war any moment!
Only one war is enough to destroy everything n there is not much time left to understand that we shld create a world where the very possibility of war doesn’t exist!!!!

Terrorism has many undercurrents… one is that, bcos of the nuclear weapons, the nations r pouring their energy into that field, thinking that the old weapons are out of date… they r out of date indeed, but cant individuals start using them?? N u cannot launch nuclear wars against individuals coz that wld simply b stupid… one individual terrorist throws a bomb n it certainly does not justify for a nuclear missile to b sent…

Wat I want to emphasize here is that, nuclear weapon has given individual people a certain kind of freedom to use those old weapons… a freedom which was not possible during olden days n that’s coz the govts were also using the same weapons! N the same govts concentrate on destroying these weapons by either throwing them into the ocean or selling them to countries which r poor n cannot afford nuclear weapons… n if u had noticed, all these terrorists come mainly from these poor countries…

They also have a strange protection… as I said earlier, u cannot use nuclear weapons against them… u just cannot throw atom bombs at them! But they can throw bombs at u, n a country that has gone ahead with being secure in the nuclear weapons front has become ‘impotent’… the same applies to US… the most powerful country in the world is still solving the 9/ 11 incident! We have a vast amount of atom bombs n nuclear bombs in our hands but to no avail… sometimes where a needle is useful, a sword may not b of any use! N ppl who have the sword need not necessarily b in a superior position to the man who has a needle…

Now the terrorist has a great power even over the greatest powers… he can throw bombs at the Twin Tower, at the white house, at the Taj Mahal hotel n at our parliament without any fear, coz wat we have is too big n we cant really throw it back… frankly even if we do throw back the small ones, where r we gonna find him?!

(to b contd...)

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Diogenes lived naked, and he was a strong man. Four people who were hijacking people and selling them as slaves in the market thought, "This is a great catch, this man can bring us a lot of money. We have sold many slaves, but none of them were so strong, so beautiful, so young. We can get as high a price as we demand; and there is going to be a great competition in the marketplace when we put this man on the pedestal for sale. But," they thought, "four are not enough to catch him. He alone could kill us all."

Diogenes heard what they were saying about him. He was sitting by the side of the river, just enjoying the cool breeze of the evening, underneath a tree; and behind the tree those four were planning what to do. He said, "Don't be worried. Come here! You need not worry that I will kill you, I never kill anything. And you need not worry that I will fight, resist you—no. I don't fight anybody, I don't resist anything. You want to sell me as a slave?"

Embarassed, afraid, those four people said, "That's what we were thinking. We are poor... if you are willing."

He said, "Of course I am. If I can help you in your poverty in some way, it is beautiful."So they brought out chains. He said, "Throw them in the river; you need not chain me. I will walk ahead of you. I don't believe in escaping from anything. In fact, I am getting excited about the idea of being sold, standing on a high pedestal, and hundreds of people trying to get me. I am excited about this auction—I am coming!"

These four people became a little more afraid: this man is not only strong and beautiful, he seems to be mad also; he could be dangerous. But now there was no way for them to escape. Diogenes said, "If you try to escape, you will be risking your own life. Just follow me, all four of you. Put me on the pedestal in the market."

Unwillingly, they followed him. They wanted to take him, but he went ahead of them! He told those people, "DOn't be afraid, and don't try to escape. You have given me a great idea, I am grateful to you. This is my responsibility; I am going to the marketplace. You put me up for auction.

"What type of man was this?" they wondered. But there was no way to back out now, so they followed him. And when he was put on a high pedestal so that everybody could see, there was almost silence, pin-drop silence. People had never seen such a proportionate body, so beautiful—as if made of steel, so strong.

Before the auctioneer said anything, Diogenese declared, "Listen people! Here is a master to be sold to any slave, because these four poor people need money. So start the auction, but remember, you are purchasing a master."

A king purchased him. Of course, he could do it—more and more money he offered at the auction. Many people were interested but finally a sum, larger than any that had ever been heard of before, was given to those four people. Diogenes said to them, "Are you happy now? You can leave now, and I will go with this slave."

On the way to the palace as they were riding in the chariot, the king said to Diogenes, "Are you crazy or something? You think yourself a master? I am a king, and you think me a slave?"

Diogenes said, "Yes, and I am not crazy, but you are crazy. I can prove it right now." At the back of the chariot was the queen. Diogenes said, "Your queen is already interested in me, she is finished with you. It is dangerous to purchase a master."

The king was shocked. Of course, he was nothing in comparison to Diogenes. The king took out his sword and asked his queen, "What he is saying, is it true? If you say the truth, your life will be saved—that is my promise. But if you say an untruth, and I find it out later on, I will behead you."

Fearful, afraid, still the queen said, "It is true. Before him, you are nothing. I am enchanted, allured; the man has some magic. You aare just a poor guy compared to him. This is the truth."

Of course, the king stopped the chariot and told Diogenes, "Get out of the chariot. I set you free; I don't want to take such risks in my palace."

Diogenes said, "Thank you. I am a man who cannot be made a slave, for the simple reason that every responsibility I take on myself. I have not left those four people feeling guilty—they did not bring me there, I came of my own accord. They must be feeling obliged. And it is your chariot, if you want me to get out, that is perfectly good. I am not accustomed to chariots at all, my legs are strong enough. I am a naked man, a golden chariot does not fit with me."

Moral of the story: No one asked Diogenes this question

"Machi... Nee ivlooooo pesariye... Jetti Potiyaa!?"

Monday, November 24, 2008

FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER.

Golden rules for finding your life partner by Dov Heller, M.A.. Got this as a fwd n it made complete sense in today's world... my only say is, flings mayb awesome but as long as both of u know the deal... dont fool each other in a rship saying its serious but then treating it like a fling...

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake.Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr. /Miss. Right! If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married,they'll say:"We're in love".

I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing alife partner should never be based on love.*Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: "You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone". You need a lot more!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious aboutfining and keeping a life partner.

*QUESTION 1: Do we share a common life purpose?*
Why is this so important? Let me put it this way:If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live withsomeone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and moremeaningful.You need a common life purpose.Two things can happen in a marriage:(1)You can grow together, or(2)You can grow apart.50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work,you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; and marry someone who wants the same thing.

*QUESTION 2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with thisPerson?*
This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.Feelingsafe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis ofhaving good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get"punished"; orhurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one.Make sureyou feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

*QUESTION 3: Is he/she a mensch?*
A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can youtest? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on aregular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacherofmine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be goodand do the right ". So ask your significant other what do they do withtheirtime? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person isnotsomeone whose top priority is character refinement.There are essentially two types of people in the world:(1)People who are dedicated to personal growth, and(2) People who are dedicated to seeking comfort.Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personalcomfortahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walkingdownthe aisle.

*QUESTION 4: How does he/she treat other people?*
The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is theability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another personpleasure.Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this, thinkabout the following:*How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such aswaiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.*How do they treat their parents and siblings?*Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitudeforthe people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much forthem? You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly willeventually treat you poorly as well.

*QUESTION 5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this personafterwe're married?*
Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intentionoftrying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of mineputsit, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for theworse". If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now,thenyou are not ready to marry them.In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous.

The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart.It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; so be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.

*Another perspective...There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance...It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you.*Pay attention... Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going down hill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or appreciate you?*The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sitinthe front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

*An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open,and after you marry, close one eye". Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, pity, desperation, immaturity,ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?

What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt,past mistrust, past pain?You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life"; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG ARE:
TRUST*
COMMUNICATION
INTIMACY
A SENSE OF HUMOR
SHARING TASKS
SOME GET AWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN
DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes)*
SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE*
GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT*

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace it.